Human beings are wired for attachment and connection.
Even though we yearn for intimacy, connection, and belonging, we’re also terrified of it. That’s because even though relationships bring out the best in us, they also bring up our deepest pain and wounding from childhood. This pulls us into a dance of both moving towards connection and at other times running away from the very thing we long for. Painful stories and narratives (schemas) that we’ve developed about ourselves and others get triggered for us in our adult relationships and pull us into engaging in protective behaviors (Schema Avoidance Behaviors) that damage our relationships. These avoidance behaviors create self-fulfilling prophecies that end up reinforcing our fears and strengthening negative relationship cycles.
Building suthentic, enlivening relationships is challenging.
Painful stories and narratives (schemas) that we’ve developed about ourselves and others get triggered for us in our adult relationships and pull us into engaging in protective behaviors (Schema Avoidance Behaviors) that damage our relationships. These avoidance behaviors create self-fulfilling prophecies that end up reinforcing our fears and strengthening negative relationship cycles.
